No one like to be told to let go of something. Worrying, ruminating, running something through your brain over and over again…it’s just SO satisfying…until it’s not. But letting go can feel like loss. When we’ve been holding on so tightly to something, the experience of letting go can be more painful than relieving. But…
“I don’t know what’s wrong with me that I feel so…depressed/anxious/sad/jealous/triggered/your-favorite-neurosis-goes-here.” Have you ever felt that way? Years and years ago we lived in smaller cities, and before that, smaller towns, smaller villages, smaller communities. And for better or for worse, everyone was always up in everyone’s business. The “for better” part meant that people…
It’s February! How are those New Year’s Resolutions going? Most people have a really hard time keeping them, so, 1) you’re human, 2) no one is actually keeping score, and 3) why not start over again? Starting over again is actually a way to recognize our humanity. It’s a way to be kind to ourselves,…
Any time anyone comes into my office with questions about their relationship, there are always three things that I look for. Attraction! Are you mutually attracted to each other? Is there a strong friendship? Is there a good connection? Skills – how good are the communication skills? Do you both share the same level of…